Oh Lila

Lila got married. She's a long time friend of mine. We met at camp when we were teenagers. She's a beautiful woman who is not too bright when it comes to matters of the heart. I do say that with reservation, because we all have our moments, but Lila has always in every situation chosen to remain blind.

As years went on, I stopped pointing out the obvious.

I couldn't make it, and so she sent me a tape. I couldn’t stop looking at the spectacle.

Lila looked beautiful in her white flowing dress. And her husband looked dashing. They looked picture perfect. The images that the media and society has painted of how "it should be."

I’m in no way knocking the preparation for this day. And perhaps I’m just a simple woman, (nothing wrong with that) but I have never dreamt of such a day. I’ve never had such an image. I’ve never even thought of a wedding day.

Gushing Lila and her dashing groom were standing at the altar when a distraught, pregnant woman about seven months decided to crash the wedding. Trailing behind her was a little boy, the son of the groom.

The woman was crying and screaming that the groom should be marrying her. She's the mother of his son and was carrying his second child. "I gave you six years of my life. I've always been there for you," she cried.

"And now he's with me" Lila said. "Go away. You're not invited. I've taken your man and there's nothing that you can do about it," She gloated.

“Shut up," the pregnant woman shouted. "He got me pregnant when he was engaged to you. He told me that he'd left you,"

The pastor was trying to calm the situation. But no one was listening.

They argued for a while until the groom stepped in. "Get out of here," he said to the mother of his child/children to be. “I don't want you? I'm going to marry Lila. I don’t want you,"

The pregnant woman stopped crying and stared at him as if she couldn't believe her ears.

“You’re talking to me like that?” she said in the most unbelievable tone. “I’ve always been here for you, and you’re talking to me like that?”

"Yes. I’m talking to you like that,” the man said.

‘Go away," Lila chimed in. "He doesn't want you,"

The woman didn't acknowledge Lila. She wouldn't take her eyes off the groom. I prayed that she was realizing perhaps for the first time that he wasn't shit. I hope for the light of clarity that sometimes hit us unexpectedly and makes us ask ourselves, what the hell is wrong with me?

And just as suddenly as she had crashed the wedding, she grabbed her son’s hand and hobbled back down the aisle.

Lila apologized to everyone wearing the most victorious smile, cracking jokes, and grabbing proudly the arm of the man she’d chosen to be her husband.

The wedding resumed without further interruptions.

Lila sent me plenty of gushing pictures. She wrote a lot about how she took away the man from the other woman.

She bragged of her victory. I wanted to feel sorry for her but couldn't. What victory?

Sometimes the prize isn't worth winning.

The winner in this one, was the woman who lost.

Comments

[Batius]

It amazes me that there are people like that man (using the term loosely here) in the world. No sense of responsibility and no sense of decency. Ok, now there could be very good reasons why he doesn't want to be wedded to the mother of his children. There could also be justifications made as to why he was as rude as he was.

BUT

How can a woman with any common sense at all look at the way he treated both herself and the other woman and be proud of her decision to marry him? It baffles the mind.

B

[fo4]

I agree Kitten, on fidelity there is no compromise.

[soul]

Nina will be doing the same thing when he leaves her.

It seems some of us women forget exactly what should be the most important thing. Marrying someone who is decent.
Any man who can treat a woman like that infront of his new bride is an idiot, a fool, and doesn't have any respect for anybody, and I'm sorry to say.. neither does Nina.
She didn't win anything.
The only person who won on that day, was the pregnant lady, if she was having difficulties getting over that man, then that wedding day must have been a turning point and helpedher immensely.

Nina on the other hand is going to be spending the rest of her life, trying to hide the fact that her husband is a cheat from everyone she knows. she will gho to great lengths to prove that he is faithfull and everytime she will be made a fool out of.

[Ryan Kidder]

I have to agree that while she may have won the battle, she lost the war. That man is most definately scum and should be treated as such. Its men like him that give good, decent men a bad name and cause us to have to work hard to prove that we are worth having.