COMMITMENT ISSUES
Do I have it in me to settle down? Am I the marrying Kind?
Sure, I am. I am faithful and caring and kind. I will love you like you've never been loved. I will support your dreams and make certain that your needs whether they are sexual or emotional, if it is in my power to fulfill them, it shall be done.
Yes, I can be the marrying kind. I know that I can be even though my track recond tells another story.
It’s not often that I get to ask myself these questions. Most of my relationships don’t last long enough for this to be an issue.
I am a serial dater. Allan told me this many years ago and I’ve come to accept it.
Where most people imagine happily ever after in a new relationship, I get into most of my mine with the end in mind. He may last a week, two months, three months—I wanted cock, cock, and more cock along with occasional companionship, and lazy days doing whatever. And when I got tired of the man with the cock. I move on to the next man, and the next, and the next….
It's not that I don't think that I am deserving of love. I am 200% deserving. I enjoy the hell out of a hug, kiss, touch, and fuck like no other that I know. I am in love with being loved. There's a great big romantic in me, she's just consumed by carnal desires.
I broke a lot of hearts along the way let me tell you even though I didn’t mean to, they just didn’t believe me when I tell them that I just wanted to fuck and would leave one day. “Don’t love me,” I warned. “If you do, I will surely break your heart,”
The problem I've come to realize is that I have serious commitment issues.
I just dont feel the need find a man and settle down even though I'm one hundred percent happy with Nick and feels that I have settled down. I have no need for anyone else. That is settling down isn't it? Or does settling down means getting married?
I don’t care about marriage and I may never care about it. All my friends are married, time they said was running out. I’m in my thirties and I still don’t give a shit. I have all the time in the world.
Falling in love with B was a surprise that took me to places I had no desire to go, and put thoughts and questions in my head I didn't want. But I didn't walk away. I went with my feelings. I was committed.
Now, I'm with Nick and I find myself taking a similiar road. I love this man. I love him passionately. I love him from the top of his head to the soles of his feet. I don't want anyone else. There IS no one else. I would not be anymore committed to him if we were married than I am commited to him living apart. That's commitment isn't it?
He is wonderful to himself and he is wonderful to me. He is incredibly attractive. He is funny—adventurous—wealthy—intelligent--cultured—well mannered--attentive. He's everything I want in a man. I trust him implicitly.
When I started dating him I did so with the end in mind too. I was convinced that I do not have the time nor the desire to invest in nurturing a relationship. I am not sure that has changed, but Im enjoying my time with Nick. I’ve been him for over a year and his cock is sweeter today than it was a year ago. He is sexier to me, funnier, more adventurous, more sexually and intellectually stimulating. I can't get enough of him.
We’ve been talking about moving in together and whenever we do, I stare at him blankly. I don't say much. I have a million things going through my mind and filled with fear that if we take that step I will screw up our beautiful love affair.
Nick has a beautiful home, but I like having my own place. I don’t know how to live in someone else’s space. I like to visit and then go home. When I’m there I’m comfortable and I’m not. I love that he’s organize but worries about the fact that I’m not.
He has a helper and everything is always spotless. My place is full of toys and fingerprints and spots on my walls where Little C has drawn trains and cars, and little men and all kinds of crap. The dishes are not always cleaned and packed away the moment I get done with them. My panties are not always in the drawer. But I love my little Island.
On the other hand, I love to be around Nick's things. I love how everything smells like him. I like to dress in his scrubs and his socks. I love to climb naked in his bed. I love when he comes home to me. I love when he leaves me there. I love that he wants me there.
If f it were just me, I would move in with him without a second thought. I can move out and move on easily if things doesn't work out. But it’s a bit more complicated with kids.
One year even though it’s a long for me, is not long at all, in the grand scheme of things.
I do not mean to over analyze, and I’m not doom and gloom, but I like to look at things as they are, and I cannot discount my past. If it's any indication of my future, I may be in trouble.
Of course, this could be the beginning of a new chapter.




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