KENNY & THE BOYS

I received a rather interesting email today...

A long time reader had an interesting and valid question.

"From your last post, it's clear that you and Kenny are spending time with your boys. How can you expose them to him when you won't even commit to him? What if things don't work? Wouldn't that be terrible for the boys?"

That's a great question. I don't believe in bringing men around my boys with whom I won't commit. However, this situation is different...

Kenny met the boys years ago. In fact, on several occasions, when I was left stranded and desperately needed a sitter, He baby sat for me. There were times over the years when I showed up to his place with them, and I let them loose in his backyard oasis. We have spent many summers barbecuing. We've even gone to the movies together. He is not a stranger to them.

Kenny and I spend time with them, but he never stays over when they're around. And I am very much committed to him. Just because I don't want to get married and have his babies right now doesn't mean that I'm not committed to him.

What if things don't work? That's the magic question, isn't it?

If I'm going to take that question into consideration, it's only fair that I balance it out. What if we work?

I can't live my life in fear of what if's . And as much as I would like to protect my boys from ever being disappointed, I can't do that either. Life is going to happen. I want my boys to see me in love. I want them to witness how beautiful Kenny treats me. And I hope that they grow into men who treat their women with love and tenderness and respect. .

I want them to understand that love is a beautiful thing even though relationships don't always work out.

Comments

[N.zeit]

Hear Hear!

[Roc]

I guess it's about knowing whrre to draw the line..

[Temite]

Yer I see your point. I have always thought that one of the most important things to teach our children is how to live. How to be alive and present and enjoy life with the awful things and grand things that comes with this life. This is the greatest lesson and I am glad you are doing that for your boys! XOXO Kitten!

[spartakuss]

WORRRRD!!!!!

[BBB]

i agree
dont let IF rule ur life if we were always scared of IF we wouldnt even leave the house

[funms-the rebirth]

absolutely right..... we shouldnt live in the fear of ifs.. im glad ur in a good place now

[thepinky@dabrain]

Mom! Mom!! Mom!!!..Its A Matter Of Modest Upbringing.

[SHE]

If I may answer on your behalf, I would say this time, there is a very strong probability that he'll stay. Thats why you're exposing them to him.

[rethots]

"I want them to witness how beautiful Kenny treats me." very well said.

[kmplx]

beautifully put. beautiful.

[Mocha]

Very well said honey.

I could take a page out of your book.

[Smaragd]

I couldnt agree more.

[Parakeet]

Interesting, I gbadun u sha. Hope u understand that.